When They Need a Friend

Who's your best friend? How did you meet? What qualities do they have that you adore? Where would you be without them?
(Originally posted in August 2015)

I have about seven best friends, not including my husband. Some I am closer to than others, but they are all close enough and special enough to be called best friends. I am blessed beyond measure to have that many trusted, sweet, and fun friends to call mine. They are wonderful.

But every once in a while, the thought occurs to me that some people don't even have one best friend. They have acquaintances, they have people to hang out with, but no one that knows the deeper parts of their heart. They feel lonely, unloved, and like there is something wrong with them.

How sad!

Making friends is harder for some people than it is for others. Almost all of my best friends are introverts, making it tough for them to be thrown into busy, crowd-filled situations. I, on the other hand, am extremely extroverted. I love meeting knew people, making people laugh, and quite possibly enjoy pushing my friends out of their comfort zone ;)

For the people out there like me- the ones who aren't afraid to act on their impulses and talk to that random stranger in the corner- I think we have an obligation.

Not an obligation to be everyone's best friend, don't worry. But we do have an obligation to make others feel loved. We are the ones who aren't intimidated to go up and say hi. We are the ones who enjoy meeting a billion new people. So many people are shy and scared. Why would we make them make the first move? That's not cool, bro! :p

But seriously, we have the ability to make new friends. There are a lot of lonely people out there. People who are far too timid to speak up and be bold. Beautiful people with low self-esteem. So whether it's a smile, a "you look beautiful. I love your hair", or a "hey, let me buy that cup of coffee for you. How are you today?", we have the gift of boldness that could make someone feel like they matter.

And let's just be real...we all know of that one person that is hard to get along with. That person that has obviously needed a friend for years. We kept hoping they would find one. We kept hoping that it wouldn't be us... Shame on us! We saw a need. We ignored a need. We passed up a wonderful opportunity to love on someone. And again, they don't have to be our best friend. They just need to know they have someone. We don't have to be on call 24/7, and it isn't an all-access pass for someone to suck the life out of us. It just means that we kick our selfishness in the butt, push past our own desires, and offer a listening ear and a loving heart to someone who truly needs it.

And for my introverted Christ-lovers out there: try to step out in this way too. I definitely think that us extroverts have a duty, but maybe God is calling you to help the lonely as well. After all, Christ didn't say "Extroverts, love one another", He simply said "love one another".

We can all step up. Meet someone new. When you see that someone is hurting and needs a friend, be that friend.


Did someone come to mind that needs a friend? How can you show that person love?

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